It’s funny that the word ‘love’ alone wasn’t enough for us, we had to bring another word ‘unconditional’ before it to understand that love on its own is infact unconditional!
After I had written my previous post, a couple of people in my circle took offense, for I was disowning a sentiment that rules the world: ‘love for mothers’. Unfortunately, my point had gone way outside their window…
Interestingly, sometime after that I came across Sadguru Jaggi Vasudev’s book ‘Mind is your Business’, where He had voiced the exact same thing. Over to the excerpt:
“On a certain day when I was just fourteen years of age, because of some interaction, somehow mother grew a little tender and expressed her love to me. She was not necessarily saying, “I love you,” but somehow she expressed it. For me, it was very matter-of-fact. I just asked her, “If I was born in the next house, would you still feel like this about me?”
It hurt her very much. She broke down and went away. I did not intend to hurt her. I just asked a simple question. These questions were constantly going on in me about everything, not just about one thing. And after sometime she came, tears still in her eyes, fell at my feet and went away. I felt that was good for her, some kind of realization happened within her.
I am saying this because our ways of thinking and feeling are so deeply identified with things we are associated with – our body, our parentage, our children, our wife, our husband, our home – with just about anything and everything.”
Thank you Sadguru!
Maybe, we, as a society, are slowly opening up to being inclusive, but most of society still identifies to a species, a race, a country, a religion, a family, a community, thus alienating / distancing all that is not their own.
Precisely, why we are we having wars and conflicts of all kinds within and outside our homes.
Let us celebrate the goodness, the purity, the selflessness we receive, yes, but why does love and truth have to be exclusive?
Observation of the world & people around us is a simple tool that lets us probe and understand what identification does.
If we cannot stand for truth and call a spade, a spade, how else will we understand our limitations in love and life… Or spot when something falls short of ‘unconditional’?
Human mind is incredibly complex, and each of us are so vastly diverse in how we think, function & speak. So we are going to have differences, but how do we deal with them? Are we going to make it easy for us and the other party?
Can we all be a mother to the world than a mother to some?
And perhaps for this reason alone, the following has been one of my favourite quotes:
“The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”
So – Are we equal in our love? Why or why not? Can we think about it? Openly? Truly? Here is an interesting video that perhaps attempts to explain the state of most human rships:
With that food for thought, let me just add- ‘May we all realise unconditional love in all our lives!’